Bury the hatchet!

I have not blogged for sometime, and let us just call it what it is lazy. And despite I just took 30 minutes writing a wondeful post and it got erased we are now doing the condensed version. Hopefully still as powerful though.

I have come to realize that most people in their lives have to make at some point and big decision. Now in my short 21 years I have to have very many of these "big" decisions. Sometimes these decisions will question your character, strengthen us and sometimes let others down. Before we make such big decision we think how it will affect those around us. Well at least I would hope we would do that. We owe it to the ones we love to give them such general curteosy. I do believe that you gather most peoples attention by letting our your own dirty laundry fly and so thus I will share a personal story.

Forgiveness: disposition or willingness to forgive. What does that mean to you? Well I thought I knew until a few years ago and now it means a whole new set of things! A few years ago I decided to let someone into my life and share just about everything with this person. I am a very optimistic person and very easy to get along with, so these things come very naturally. I am also at the same time a very naive person too... oops. Well when it came out that this certain person had all about destroyed my reputation and made up all sorts of hiddeous things, I without hesitation decided to send this person packing and kicked them to the curb. Thought I generally do not stand up for myself, it was a very easy decision.

Well now what does forigveness mean to you? I have many people around me that think forgiveness means you should just allow those people you have granted this gift to a 100% clean and new plate. In this particular situation I could not be more on the opposite side. Besides the facts that this person and I should never have been friends in the first place, or that it continues to ruin friendships to this day. I have decided that I will stand up for myself and whatever will be will be for everyone else. In this particular situation I cannot allow myself to move backwards.

So does forgiveness mean that you should allow people to return to the previous trust? I personally do not think so. I think each situation should be evaluated differently. Those people that love and respect you should realize that. They should respect your decision no matter what you decide to do. Just think of your situation I asked about earlier. Did you have to compromise relationships or character to make a decision you did? How did it affect you? Would you go back and change the dynamics of how things went?

They are all things to be taken with consideration and I hope you have made the right decision. Forgiveness is something I do not take lightly. Thought we must be humble enough to receive this gift, we must also do the same in return. So must we learn to forgive and forget? Yes, it is one of the reasons we are here. But does that mean you must let your old habits die hard? Well, I will let you decide for yourself. I love you all and send best wishes.

Stand a little taller